Kids
often ask “Why should charity begin at home?” We as parents need to explain to
our kids that like most values, charity is also instilled gradually and it
starts from home.
‘Charity
begins at home’ is a well known saying, which really means that you should try
to help your family and friends. This prepares a good foundation for you to
help other people.
Our
family is the perfect place to learn about charity and service to others,
because charity inculcates the value to serve others, serve one another, and
love one another. But to instill these values in kids is not easy, as they are
naturally focused on their own needs and they have to be weaned away from their
self-centeredness.
Children
who have everything cannot imagine what it is like to have nothing or have
little. They are not able to place themselves into the other person’s shoes and
feel the true feeling of having nothing, or managing within limited means.
It
is our job as parents in a family to help them understand that charity begins
at home, and it is the responsibility of those who have- to help those who have
less or nothing at all. We need to be role models and demonstrate generosity
and caring to our children, and get the whole family involved in learning all
about charity.
“Charity begins at home, but should not end there.” ~ Thomas Fuller.
The
joys of giving should be all year through, and with the holiday season like
Christmas and New Year just round the corner, they give us ample opportunity to
demonstrate that our home is the right place to begin charity by being
generous.
The
Christmas season is a good time to start thinking about helping other people by
indulging in small deeds like providing food, toys, and clothes. This way you
would enable the needy families to also experience the joy of the festive
season. After all Christmas is all about giving love, hope, and warmth, and is
a good time to share our good fortune with those in need.
Some
more things you can give away this festive season as charity that cost you
nothing –
“Christmas gift suggestions:
To your enemy, forgiveness.
To an opponent, tolerance.
To a friend, your heart.
To a customer, service.
To all, charity.
To every child, a good example.
To yourself, respect.” ~ Oren Arnold
Charity
does start from home and once you accept this fact, you can look for
opportunities in and around your house, without having to wait to join a
charitable cause or project to start giving.
Think
how much fun your children would have if they were told why charity should
begin at home, by making them a part of such action. You don’t have to be a
philanthropist to make a difference, and besides money, there are other ways
families, children, and parents can give.
Like
you can contribute-
By
giving such charity you demonstrate to children that they can have fun as a
family, and also help others in the process.
Should
charity begin at home is also something that I asked my parents when I was a
child, and they turned out to be role models for me by showing me that giving
can be so much fun, and as rewarding as receiving.
They
taught me to contribute to the world from my heart and not just the pocket, and
by beginning in my own backyard. They also instilled in me that charity begins
with ‘me’ first.
I
clearly remember an incident that moved me when I was a child. We as a family
were passing by in our car and had stopped at the crossings, where we saw an
old beggar lying on the street shivering in the cold.
Just
as most of us usually do, we passed-by trying to neglect the fact that we saw
the poor man shiver in the biting cold, while we sat warmed up with woollens in
our car and drove off to a little distance.
It
was my mother, one of the most generous and kind hearted persons I have ever
seen, who stopped the vehicle, got out of the car, walked up to the man, and
just threw across her warm cloak onto him, so easily and selflessly.
That
was my first lesson learnt and to date I remember it so well. However, I still
have to follow in her footsteps and do as she did, though I try my best to help
the needy as much and whenever possible. It is something I am trying to instil
into my kids as well. Similarly, we need to change ourselves and the people
around us first, before taking on the rest of the world.
“We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great
love.” ~ Mother Teresa
There
is so much you can give and only so many resources you can share. I strongly
feel that there is literally someone you can help in every street, anytime, and
every time- provided you want to.
So, rediscover the joy of giving and make your holiday and every day special by remembering that charity begins at home!